WHAT IS DOMESTIC VIOLENCE?

Domestic abuse takes on many forms: psychological, verbal, financial, physical, sexual and spiritual. It affects all types of romantic relationships and social classes. In 46% of cases of domestic violence, the alleged perpetrators are spouses, 44% are ex-spouses, and 10% are close friends.

In Quebec in 2019, 21,957 offenses against the person were committed in a conjugal context. In 80% of cases, women are the main victims.

When abuse continues after the separation, it becomes particularly dangerous for the victim. The ultimate act of control in the context of domestic abuse and post-separation violence is femicide, namely the “murder of a woman, a girl because of her sex” (Le Petit Robert). Every year, a dozen women in Quebec are victims of femicide in a marital context. Unfortunately, infanticides are also perpetrated in contexts of domestic abuse.

“You’re stupid. You smell bad. You’re worth nothing. You have no degree. You’ll never make it without me. Your family is worth nothing. You’re not obedient enough. Shut your mouth, witch!” These are only a few of the extremely degrading words he threw at me during our life together in our country of origin, then when we moved to Canada.
When we were out with family and friends, he was a true gentleman, but back home, he would beat me for no reason. I never knew what the trigger would be.
I was afraid to fall asleep before he did because he used to pull me out of bed and drag me down the hall by my ankle with such force that my head would bounce along the floor. He would kick and punch me while I’d cover my face, crying.